Not to often am I gallivanting about the states, even less without my three.
As a mom I just forget what being alone is like. Oh sure, there are those fleeting moments in the shower when the hot water pours down and erases everything. Usually what happens to me is I slip into a coma like state for a moment before remembering my children are unsupervised. Then there are the late evenings when all is quiet and I pop in a movie only to have a disgruntled little person scowling in my room with their hands firmly planted in their sides. A look that is sometimes accompanied with the phrase, "why do
WE have to sleep and
YOU get to watch movies?!"
You know those mothers who have the children that are quiet in church and walk in a strait line in the store.....well good. We aren't talking about them.
When I go to the church its world war three....number significant. Yup. When we go to the store its not a single file line behind mommy, its a circus parade that no one can help but look at. Many a grandma has given me the loving 'your gonna miss it' pat on the arm when I look exasperated and try to pry them free of the candy shelf. The thing is... I know I am going to miss it. I know someday soon they will be too old to let me pick them up, to grown up to let me kiss their head and to busy to whisper secrets at night.
Saving little scraps of paper and special items was my mothers way of hanging on. Because I am a mom who does not survive well with clutter, I have found my own solution. I keep a memory. The problem?It gets a bit cluttered! Its like those huge pictures made up of thousands of snippets. If you stand too close there is so much its overwhelming!
About once every two years I step back for a few days. Greg takes the house guy role and I am just
me. I walk around stores not fearing what might be broken. I don't cook or clean up. Its quiet and in that quiet I can hear and see the things which get cluttered and sticky with all the gunk that doesn't matter. Spending the weekend away going to movies that aren't cartoon or trying on clothes without being informed of my less desired body aspects may sound selfish, but in reality it is a moment when I can step back and be
so thankful for what I have and feel a tiny patch of the longing I will feel in my later years.. perhaps on a daily basis. It helps me see that big picture that all the tiny snapshots are making.
Take heart, capture the little things and keep them always. Make time to look at what you are treasuring and be sure it is not buried beneath busyness. Some things wont wait until tomorrow.
ps..after much consideration I am going with banjo. Its not nearly as lofty as writing, or as sophisticated as painting, rather it is attainable.